Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis is a must read if you’re a devoted self-help reader. Written by the founder of Chic Media, the book explores the lies we tell ourselves through the personal experience of the author.
Rachel Hollis is an author, motivational speaker, CEO, blogger, mom, and wife. She has successfully built a business from the ground up and dealt with some life trials along the way. She has faced challenges related to business, motherhood, marriage, and life that we can all learn from.
Rachel presents these lessons in her book, which has now sold over 2 million copies!
Continue reading to find out the lessons I took away from Girl, Wash Your Face and how you can get your hands on a copy of this book!
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Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis
Published By: Thomas Nelson
Publication Date: February 6, 2018
Genre: Non-Fiction, Self Help, Personal Development
“With wry wit and hard-earned wisdom, popular online personality and founder of TheChicSite.com founder Rachel Hollis helps readers break free from the lies keeping them from the joy-filled and exuberant life they are meant to have.
Founder of the lifestyle website TheChicSite.com and CEO of her own media company, Chic Media, Rachel Hollis has created an online fan base of hundreds of thousands of fans by sharing tips for living a better life while fearlessly revealing the messiness of her own. Now comes her highly anticipated first book featuring her signature combination of honesty, humour, and direct, no-nonsense advice.
Each chapter of Girl, Wash Your Face begins with a specific lie Hollis once believed that left her feeling overwhelmed, unworthy, or ready to give up. As a working mother, a former foster parent, and a woman who has dealt with insecurities about her body and relationships, she speaks with the insight and kindness of a BFF, helping women unpack the limiting mindsets that destroy their self-confidence and keep them from moving forward.
From her temporary obsession with marrying Matt Damon to a daydream involving hypnotic iguanas to her son’s request that she buy a necklace to “be like the other moms,” Hollis holds nothing back. With unflinching faith and tenacity, Hollis spurs other women to live with passion and hustle and to awaken their slumbering goals.”
Synopsis borrowed from Goodreads.com
4 LIFE LESSONS FROM GIRL, WASH YOUR FACE
While not everything Rachel discussed in her book related to me (ermm, I’m not a mother, or married), I can relate to most of it. Especially the lies related to self-esteem and confidence. So here goes…
Discover and stay true to your values
Common lies we tell ourselves is that we’re not good enough, someone else is doing it better, or I have to act like this to be acknowledged.
Rachel Hollis touches on these lies by telling them through her own life experience. In Chapter 3, she admits that she is a recovering workaholic, a habit deriving from the need to prove herself. In Chapter 12, she talks about her relationship with her father, how her childhood taught her to downplay her goals rather than confidently share them with everyone. Lastly, several of her Chapters challenge the lies that she is not a good mother, not a good wife, horrible at sex, and behind in life.
I loved these little lies and the lessons she learned. What I took away from Rachel’s experience is the importance of understanding what is important to US, what we VALUE. If we are in tune with ourselves and what’s important to only us, the opinions of others wouldn’t have such an effect.
Nobody is perfect
Several of Rachel Hollis’ lies relate to perfectionism. She is trying to be the perfect daughter, perfect mother, perfect wife and do everything perfectly. Perfectionism isn’t attainable, it’s a lie we tell ourselves, that we can do everything and do it well.
Rachel discovered this as she compared herself to other moms and felt like she fell short. At another point in her life, she felt as if it wasn’t progressing the way she envisioned it would. My favorite bit in the book is when she describes the period in her life she experienced bells palsy from stress. She experienced paralysis in half her face because she was pushing herself too hard, trying to good at everything. By realizing these lies she was able to shift her mindset and improve her health.
You have to take care of your wellbeing and perfectionism works against that. It leads to workaholic behaviors, unrealistic expectations of yourself and the people around you. By embracing the chaos, she was able to find happiness and a healthier lifestyle.
You have to start somewhere
Nobody enters life programmed with the skills to succeed at whatever they choose. We also have to face challenges and struggle in order to grow as a person.
Rachel Hollis is the founder of a media company, Chic Media, but she didn’t start there. She grew up in Bakersfield California and later moved to L.A. to work for Miramax. When she met her husband, they started an event planning business, which was a success but no longer exists. Today she is a media queen, blogger, writer, and motivational speaker.
What I love about Rachel is that she doesn’t just show us the highlights. Her Instagram feed is full of amazing curated photographs by professional photographers but she also shares those imperfect moments. In that way, she is staying humble to her roots and connecting with the rest of us who look at our stretch marks and muffin tops and cringe.
Life isn’t straight forward
Lastly, one of my favorite takeaways from Girl, Wash Your Face is that believing life should happen in steps is a lie. I already knew this, but I like to reaffirm these beliefs over and over. It’s very empowering.
There is no manual to life and nothing rarely happens how you planned. But that’s okay! Rarely do people graduate college at 21, land their dream job right away, get married and have kids before 25. Your life might happen differently. Mine sure has!
I gave Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis a 4 out of 5 stars on Goodreads. I loved the message of this book, that you are in charge of your own happiness. Rachel is also an impressive public figure, I can’t help look up to as an online entrepreneur. Where the book lost a star however is that its target audience appears to be married women with children, which isn’t me. It also has a slight Christian undertone to some of the lessons, which also isn’t me. BUT, that doesn’t mean I didn’t take away the life-improving advice written on its pages.
WHERE CAN YOU PURCHASE YOUR OWN COPY?
You can probably find a copy of Girl, Wash Your Face at any bookstore, or order online it here!